Moms Talk Q&A: Getting Even or Getting Over It?

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So grab a cup of coffee and settle in as we start the conversation today based on a recent column by Taryn Grimes-Herbert.

Today's topic: How do you work with your child to avoid the revenge mentality when it comes to being bullied? 

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Taryn Grimes-Herbert April 13, 2011 at 05:23 PM
I agree, Kristin. Teaching my kids that their response is their responsibility has become a major part of parenting for me and my husband. And in order to do that they need more from us than just words. They need us to lead by example. As you said, it's not always easy but very important.
Kirstin Fawcett April 13, 2011 at 05:37 PM
I had a unique experience - growing up, my mother was a family attorney and my father was a psychiatrist. Both of them had a sort of inside knowledge of what was going on with many of our town's families. Although my parents were professionals and never shared details, I got insight into the private lives of many class bullies and gained a greater understanding of why they acted the way they did towards their peers.
Taryn Grimes-Herbert April 13, 2011 at 05:48 PM
You are very lucky, Kristin. That kind of insight is invaluable to a child. Compassion is something that has to be experienced early, and your parents clearly understood that.
Jack Miller April 13, 2011 at 06:45 PM
It’s never too early to teach your children about Karma. There is some gratification to knowing that the bully will someday get theirs, whether or not you (or your child) are around to see it.
Kirstin Fawcett April 13, 2011 at 06:59 PM
I like that approach, Jack. :) Passive vengeance. (Kidding. Sort of.)


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